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How my early experience with sex is destroying my beautiful marriage




I still remember the first day I was forced to have sex. I was 18 and in love with a gentleman who promised me heaven on earth. He treated me like I was his everything until that fateful day.

I was in his room on a visit. That was my third or so visit. My previous visits had been event free. I trusted him not to hurt me but that day he was different.

He pounced on me as though he was fighting a bull. I resisted. I fought him with every strength I had. He succeeded in forcefully taken what he wanted. I’ve never experienced pain that intense. I cried. I begged. I kept hitting on his chest to leave me alone. He wouldn’t listen. He had his way and I had my worse pain ever.

All sweaty and barely breathing, he apologized to me but I was in so much pain I couldn’t utter a word. I struggled to stand on my feet and when the pain subsided a little, I left and went home. I never saw him again. He said everything to make me reconsider him but I didn’t. I moved on.

Some years later I fell for another guy. Good looking and well mannered. But I couldn’t trust him not to hurt me. However hard he tried, I never visited his home. I resisted every attempt to be alone with him in any way.

He couldn’t stand me and “My drama” as he called it. He left me. I wanted him to stay. I promised I would change but I couldn’t simply change for him. I was too scared to go through such pain again.

And then Richie, the guy who is now my husband came along. He came with a promise of marriage. I didn’t trust him at first but as time went on he was able to make me open up to him. I told him about that sex experience. He understood my fears and tried to help me get over them.

We never had sex until finally we got married.

Everybody speaks highly of their honeymoon but I can’t do the same. It was terrible that night. He virtually had to fight me to get it and I had to clench my butt, squeeze my thighs and pull my muscles together before he could slip in. At a point, I felt my abdomen was being ripped apart. The pain was so unbearable.

He wanted another one but I threatened to scream for the whole hotel to hear. He stopped. We spent three days at the hotel and the only time we had sex was that once.

I love being married. Everything is beautiful except sex. I remember one night after fighting over sex and denying him, I made a stupid statement like; “If you like, get sex from other women and leave me alone.” I didn’t mean it but I felt I had to do or say anything just to free myself.

I met a gynecologist. There was nothing wrong with me. We attended a series of counseling. The counselor said I’ve had a painful experience with sex so I’ve developed psychological resistance to sex. That’s how come I Always experience pains. He said It might not even be pains but rather my mind playing back my past experience.

What I go through during sex isn’t a memory of past pain. It’s a real pain that feels like hell in my lower abdomen.

My husband started withdrawing. I could see in his actions that he was frustrated with me. He started coming home late after work and stopped talking to me. He’ll travel and not tell me or visit his parents and not tell me about it.

One day when he returned from his parents, he told me; “You won’t have sex with me so how do we start making babies?” Now I started thinking about it. I love babies. I want three of them and that means a lot of sex but how?

I started doing some exercise they said will help open up this and that in my body to help me enjoy sex. One night I decided to test if the exercise I had done will yield results so I called for a ‘match’. He was surprised because it was the first time I had specifically asked for sex. That night I nearly died. But I had to bear the pain till the end.

It’s been a year already in marriage and I could count the number of times we’ve had sex on my fingers. Sometimes I believe my husband is having an affair with another woman and will soon bring their kids home to me. That has been my worse fear. He’s mostly pensive and talks a lot on the phone. He could stay in bed till late in the night and be chatting with people.

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I want to rescue my marriage. I want to do everything to keep the man I married but it’s not easy. I don’t want to keep blaming that guy who forcefully had his way with me when I was young but I curse him anytime the memory of that fateful day comes to mind. He stole something from me that I can’t get it back however hard I try. Karma should deal with him.

I’m currently on some herbal drugs a good friend of mine prescribed to me. She told me it has worked magic for her and would solve my problem. I want to believe it would because I need healing and I need it quick.


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Amakye Dede, Samini Slated For ‘Giants Unplugged’ Concert




Amakye Dede and Samini will headline the maiden edition of a charity concert dubbed ‘Giants Unplugged’.

Being organised by Primeval Media, in collaboration with John Agyekum Kufuor (JAK) Foundation, the event is slated for December 7 at the Fantasy Dome, Trade Fair Centre in Accra.

The purpose of the concert is to raise funds to support the construction of an ultra-modern Kufuor Centre for Leadership & Governance at the University of Ghana and also support the Kufuor Scholars Programme (KSP).

The concert is expected to attract thousands of personalities, including politicians, music stakeholders, celebrities as well as music fans.

The event would be a massive one, as some of the crème de la crème in Ghana’s music would join Amakye Dede and Samini on stage to deliver a world-class stage performance.

Some of the artistes billed to perform at the event are Kofi Kinaata, Efya, Bisa Kdei, Adina, Kaakyire Kwame Appiah, Dada KD, Lucky Mensah, among others.

With his excellent showmanship, Amakye Dede is expected to thrill music fans with an innovative style that has endeared him to millions of people throughout the country.

He promises to prove his worth and why he remains Ghana’s biggest highlife musician in Ghana today.

His stage performances and singing skills have earned him breathtaking credentials as one of the most thrilling highlife musicians in Ghana today.


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Bhim Concert Goes To Tamale




This year’s edition of the annual musical show dubbed ‘Bhim Concert’ will take place at the Tamale Sports Stadium instead of the usual Accra International Conference Centre (AICC).

Being organised by Burniton Music Group, this year’s event, which is the fourth edition, would be headlined by Stonebwoy and a surprise guest artiste whose name would be announced at the official launch of the event.

The concert is being hosted to celebrate Stonebwoy’s achievements on the music scene, promote his works and to create the opportunity for Ghanaian artistes in the northern part of the country to showcase their musical talents on one platform.

Slated for Saturday, December 21, the show would feature some award-winning music stars who would entertain dancehall and hiplife fans with great hits from their various albums.

The concert would also serve as a platform for several up-and-coming artistes based in Tamale to showcase their talents, promote their brands and music at the concert.

The concert promises to be bigger with thrilling performances from all the artistes who have promised to deliver back-to-back performances.

Previous editions witnessed performances from stars like Rocky Dawuni, Becca, Kumi Guitar, Obibini, Joyce Blessing, Samini, VVIP, Joey B, Kojo Funds, Kofi Kinaata, Kelvyn Boy, Edem, Mugeez, Yaa Pono, King Promise, among others.


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‘”The Burial Of Kojo” Makes History At Golden Globes Entry




‘The Burial of Kojo’, the directorial debut from Ghana’s Blitz Bazawuke, is officially in the run for a Golden Globe nomination.

This makes it the first-ever film from Ghana to be considered for a Golden Globe nomination.

“Oh my God. @theburialofkojo made history for Ghana. The first from Ghana is eligible for a nomination for the @goldenglobes Best Foreign Language Film,” the film’s co-producer and actress Ama K Abebrese said on Instagram when she broke the news on Friday.

“WHAAAAAAT!!!! [The Burial of Kojo] is up for a Golden Globe Nomination. First ever for Ghana. Just Wow!!!” director and co-producer Bazawuke also tweeted.

Golden Globe is one of the world’s most celebrated award platforms. The upcoming event is the 77th edition Golden Globe Awards and it would take place on January 5, 2020.

Ninety-five films from 65 different countries are being considered for nomination in the category, including Cannes favourite ‘Atlantics’ from Senegal and ‘The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind’ from Malawi.

Fingers are crossed for ‘The Burial of Kojo’ to further make Ghana’s movie industry proud out there.

The film tells the story of Kojo (Joseph Otsiman), who is left to die in an abandoned gold mine, as his young daughter Esi (newcomer Cynthia Dankwa) travels through a spirit land to save him.

The film was produced by Blitz Bazawule, Ama Abebrese and Kwaku Obeng Boateng.

It had its world premiere in New York on September 21, 2018, at the Urban World Film Festival, where it was recognised as best narrative feature (World Cinema). It is distributed by ARRAY and was released on the popular streaming service Netflix on March 21, 2019, making it the first Ghanaian film to premiere in selected countries worldwide on Netflix.

It also picked two awards at the 2019 edition of the Africa Movie Academy Awards in Nigeria, including best director-first feature film for Blitz and best young/promising actor for Cynthia Dankwa, who played Esi in the film.



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