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How my early experience with sex is destroying my beautiful marriage




I still remember the first day I was forced to have sex. I was 18 and in love with a gentleman who promised me heaven on earth. He treated me like I was his everything until that fateful day.

I was in his room on a visit. That was my third or so visit. My previous visits had been event free. I trusted him not to hurt me but that day he was different.

He pounced on me as though he was fighting a bull. I resisted. I fought him with every strength I had. He succeeded in forcefully taken what he wanted. I’ve never experienced pain that intense. I cried. I begged. I kept hitting on his chest to leave me alone. He wouldn’t listen. He had his way and I had my worse pain ever.

All sweaty and barely breathing, he apologized to me but I was in so much pain I couldn’t utter a word. I struggled to stand on my feet and when the pain subsided a little, I left and went home. I never saw him again. He said everything to make me reconsider him but I didn’t. I moved on.

Some years later I fell for another guy. Good looking and well mannered. But I couldn’t trust him not to hurt me. However hard he tried, I never visited his home. I resisted every attempt to be alone with him in any way.

He couldn’t stand me and “My drama” as he called it. He left me. I wanted him to stay. I promised I would change but I couldn’t simply change for him. I was too scared to go through such pain again.

And then Richie, the guy who is now my husband came along. He came with a promise of marriage. I didn’t trust him at first but as time went on he was able to make me open up to him. I told him about that sex experience. He understood my fears and tried to help me get over them.

We never had sex until finally we got married.

Everybody speaks highly of their honeymoon but I can’t do the same. It was terrible that night. He virtually had to fight me to get it and I had to clench my butt, squeeze my thighs and pull my muscles together before he could slip in. At a point, I felt my abdomen was being ripped apart. The pain was so unbearable.

He wanted another one but I threatened to scream for the whole hotel to hear. He stopped. We spent three days at the hotel and the only time we had sex was that once.

I love being married. Everything is beautiful except sex. I remember one night after fighting over sex and denying him, I made a stupid statement like; “If you like, get sex from other women and leave me alone.” I didn’t mean it but I felt I had to do or say anything just to free myself.

I met a gynecologist. There was nothing wrong with me. We attended a series of counseling. The counselor said I’ve had a painful experience with sex so I’ve developed psychological resistance to sex. That’s how come I Always experience pains. He said It might not even be pains but rather my mind playing back my past experience.

What I go through during sex isn’t a memory of past pain. It’s a real pain that feels like hell in my lower abdomen.

My husband started withdrawing. I could see in his actions that he was frustrated with me. He started coming home late after work and stopped talking to me. He’ll travel and not tell me or visit his parents and not tell me about it.

One day when he returned from his parents, he told me; “You won’t have sex with me so how do we start making babies?” Now I started thinking about it. I love babies. I want three of them and that means a lot of sex but how?

I started doing some exercise they said will help open up this and that in my body to help me enjoy sex. One night I decided to test if the exercise I had done will yield results so I called for a ‘match’. He was surprised because it was the first time I had specifically asked for sex. That night I nearly died. But I had to bear the pain till the end.

It’s been a year already in marriage and I could count the number of times we’ve had sex on my fingers. Sometimes I believe my husband is having an affair with another woman and will soon bring their kids home to me. That has been my worse fear. He’s mostly pensive and talks a lot on the phone. He could stay in bed till late in the night and be chatting with people.

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I want to rescue my marriage. I want to do everything to keep the man I married but it’s not easy. I don’t want to keep blaming that guy who forcefully had his way with me when I was young but I curse him anytime the memory of that fateful day comes to mind. He stole something from me that I can’t get it back however hard I try. Karma should deal with him.

I’m currently on some herbal drugs a good friend of mine prescribed to me. She told me it has worked magic for her and would solve my problem. I want to believe it would because I need healing and I need it quick.

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27-year-old nymphomaniac resorts to FGM to suppress her libido




A 27-year-old self-confessed nympho who says she has been struggling with sex and masturbation has decided to see a doctor to get her clitoris severed in order to repress her sexual appetite.

The lady who revealed that she had been introduced to masturbation at age 10 by a housemaid indicated that she had become disgusted with what she had become since she had been unable to practice fidelity in all her past 4 relationships.

The lady who didn’t disclose her name shared her ordeal to Citi FM’s panel on ‘’Sister sister”.
After her church counsellor travelled, she had never been able to talk to another one due to being embarrassed about sharing her ordeal with another.

She, however, added that she eventually sought for professional help but had to put a halt to that after 6-months as well because the cost was not sustainable.

She noted that her current boyfriend with whom plans were underway to get married to suggested she seeks help after she confided in him about her problem. She maintained that he had booked an appointment with a doctor friend to carry out the surgery which was tantamount to Female Genital Mutilation.

Among several other advises shared by the sisters, the lady was admonished to desist from the idea of going ahead with the mutilation, promising to help her seek less expensive professional aids.

Host of the show, Jessica Opare Saforo charged the lady to forfeit her relationship with her boyfriend since if the table had been turned, he would not get his manhood cut off simply because he had an outrageously high libido.

“…this is one question I want you to ponder on, if the roles were turned and it was your boyfriend who was the unfaithful cheat, would he cut off his penis to stay with you? If the answer is no, and I’m sure you already know the answer, then this is definitely not the way to go…” she concluded.

#CitiNewsroom [11th July 2019]

You are watching a stream of your favorite relationship talkshow, #SisterSister with Jessica Opare Saforo and her 'Sisters'

Publiée par Citi TV sur Jeudi 11 juillet 2019

Source: ghanaweb

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The Neverland Ranch is known for being the home and private amusement park of the late American entertainer Michael Jackson for 15years.

Many who have heard about and seen the pictures of the expensive yet exquisite ranch admits it is worth the hype.

Ghanaian billionaire, CEO of Taabea Group of Companies has his own version of the Neverland Ranch in Ghana.

In the quest to become accomplished and successful, owning a place of your own, a place you can call home is one of the many things on the list of Abraham Maslow’s theory of needs. In fact, it is one of the basic needs. The kind of edifice you call home is a direct reflection of your income and it tells people your status in the society.

This magnificent home includes, eight-bedroom suites, a mega parlour, two kitchens, 2 dining halls, a security apartment, state of the art swimming pool, a vast area for relaxation and comfort and many other related rooms.

Whiles Neverland was the home and private amusement park of MJ, this mansion is just a home to the CEO of Taabea Group of Companies. It can be estimated to reach about $ 3.5 million. The cost of the property does not include the fleet of cars (Lamborghini Aventandor, Bentley, Range Rover Sports, Jaguar, BMW, Toyota Land Cruiser, Jeep and many more) hopefully in some few years, it can rise to the tune of over $20 million. This is a dream many young people have and the CEO of Taabea Group of Companies is a beacon of hope that many can hold dear to their dreams.

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Why Yvonne Nelson Did Not Attend John Dumelo’s Wedding




Over the weekend, actor John Dumelo had his white wedding at Royal Senchi and that had been one of the most trending news till now.

Several celebrities trooped to the event grounds to support the couple but one person missing in action was his ex bestie Yvonne Nelson.

From the pictures and videos circulating online, we had seen Nadia Buari who happened to be the main bride’s maid, Yvonne Okoro, Sandra Ankobiah, Jackie Appiah and several others.

Yvonne Nelson who was missing even though she was in the country sent a very strong message across. Were they fighting thus she didn’t go? Were there issues between the two so John didn’t invite her?

Well, according to Yvonne Okoro, John invited Yvonne Nelson to his white wedding but there was a family emergency and she had to cancel at the last minute.

That’s what Yvonne Okoro explained to a fan who asked why her colleague Yvonne Nelson was nowhere to be found.

Even if Yvonne Nelson had an emergency to attend to, it’s been almost 48 hours after the event but she hasn’t made a single post to congratulate her bosom friend John but she has made a series of posts both on her Instagram page and story.

This is where we think there is something wrong; the two paddies might probably be quarreling thus she didn’t attend his wedding and hasn’t posted anything yet. Let’s see if she will post eventually.

Here’s a screenshot of Yvonne Okoro telling a fan the reason why Yvonne Nelson couldn’t make it to John’s wedding.

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